Dear Sweeet Beloved Soul 
It is NOT about failing. This sensation of not ever getting past, or getting through, or getting rid of… which you perceive as you are lacking skills – ever perhaps as Karma. Or willpower.
NO. You decided this. “I must handle this myself”. You hide it deep within you – or at least that is how you think of it – which is actually not true..
And at times you become aware again. The energetic pattern has become visible again – perhaps by an event, perhaps by a memory or a thought. Even so you are yet aware and you squirm, twist and turn…judge yourself, distract yourself…
The Light has been turned on and you immediatly look for hiding. Is there a blanket you can throw over whatever you are unwilling to put in the Light? you ask in your dispair.
Now you have your (not so) well hidden secret, you are painfully aware of it, you have the anxiety breathing down your neck, your heart pounding with stress.
Sometimes you are able to hybernate it again… to again go into unconsciousness with the energetic pattern. You use means of force to release the energy stirred up by using Anger or exercising your body. Your body then becomes too tired to be aware of the energy leaving your mind to move away into unconsciousness behaviour and thoughts.
This pattern will however reoccur and reoccur until you sit with it. You must ask: What is this energetic pattern I have become aware of?
Then you must surrender it. Not in a sense of giving up or loosing faith deeming yourself as unable.
No! On the contrary! Surrendering to the fact that alone you cannot change this. You must invite more awareness. It may be as “easy” as looking at the clouds. Do they struggle? The birds? Do they stand still fighting in their minds? No they fly, they go and see what is to be found. And then they take off.
Invinte Angels, Devas, the God/Godess of choice. Invite the Inner Child, the True Self, your past or future lifetime and knowing. Or a friend.
What/who you choose is not significant. All that matters is that you open your heart – you open the door to your heart and welcome new information. You open your heart and you from your heart tell your Mind: Thank you blessed Mind for hard work,efforts and good will. But this Knowing we are searching for must come from other sources.
And the wide space of Allowance opens up. The vast space of Infinite possibility of choice.. of wonder..of relaxation and release presents itself. It is ok. It is more than ok. In fact is is marvellous and praise to go to the place of surrender. Because by doing that you have not only invited the Infinte to be a gift to you but also YOU to be a gift to the Infinte.
You tear down the walls of separation.You lay down your guns. Stop fighting mind with mind.
You let go of worry, hurry and angst.
And you realise that freedom was always present.